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Forgiveness: Necessary? Yes!

Forgiveness...it's the key to fixing our problems with each other. By forgiving someone, you're assuring in your heart that you no longer have a grudge against them. By forgiving someone directly (means to do it in person, rather than just in your heart), you're clarifying in both of your hearts at the same time that there is no grudge. Keep in mind that the definition to forgive is to literally stop feeling anger toward someone or something.

There are times when we choose to ignore or deny our hurts - which we then hide deep within our souls. Resentment can be a powerful feeling deep within your heart, which at times we can forget about. If not kept on a leash, resentment and anger can fester and cause a lot of issues socially and mentally. Unforgiveness should not have any place in a Christian's life. Or in anyone's life, period.

Jesus gave His life so those that believe in Him could be forgiven. As His followers, we need to imitate His example as directed in Ephesians 4:32. If we refuse to forgive someone or just forget about it, Satan gets his foothold in our lives, which can keep us from being the people that GOD desires.

Unforgiveness is a deliberate refusal to give up anger. We think that wrongdoers should not get away with their offenses. We must realize, however, that when we accepted Jesus Christ as our Savior, we surrendered to right to take matters in our own hands. GOD will fight for you! Our responsibility is to forgive and let GOD do the rest.

The Problem with Unforgiveness

Consequences of Unforgiveness

Peter, one of Jesus' Disciples, asked Jesus how many times he should forgive a brother who sinned against him, and Jesus replied: "seventy times seven" (Matthew 18:21-22). This means that our willingness to forgive should be unending. We should continue to forgive people as long as we have breath in our body. So, are there consequences? Yes there are. Many examples follow.

Overcoming unforgiveness

Love is the evidence

What are the other evidences that we have overcome unforgiveness?

If we continue to ignore the sin of unforgiveness, we will be held in bondage. Jesus wants us to be free, which is one of the reasons that He came to free us (John 8:36). Because He forgave us and continues to forgive us, criminals of sin, we should forgive others, the wrongdoers. Lastly, ask the Lord to help you and bless you with the fruit of the spirit (Galatians 5:22-23).

Scriptural references

Ephesians 4:26-32
Matthew 6:13-15
Matthew 7:7
Matthew 11:28
Matthew 18:21-22
John 8:36
Philippians 4:13
Hebrews 12:1
Hebrews 12:14-15
1 John 1:9